Feminist Parenting Collective

What is the Feminist Parenting Collective?

A group of feminist parents that practice feminist parenting methods, believe in and advocate for creating equality in parenting, and are committed to positive societal change through feminist child rearing. The mission will be to create a collective parenting statement that will influence change in the current parenting ideologies and institutions.


I envision a two part objective. First, to collectively create s statement of beliefs, definitions and theories of all things surrounding feminist parenting that will serve as the foundation and launching pad for the feminist parenting movement. This statement is intended to define feminist parenting and the changes necessary to achieve equality in parenting. Second, to use this collective statement to create radical changes in societies views, theories and practices of parenting to reflect those of the collective’s vision. These changes will be both macro-level (systematic, institutional, legislative etc.) and micro-level (individual beliefs, practical methods, etc.).

Who will make up the collective?

It is my belief that the collective should consist of as many types of feminist parents as possible to provide a wide range of viewpoint and input and avoid marginalization of any group. Intersectionality should be a goal of all statements and beliefs produced by the collective.

Specifically, the collective should consist of a range of demographics. The common thread should be that the members are parents (not necessarily of the traditional definition): female, male, married, partnered, single, separated, divorce, biological, adopted, guardians, grandparents, uncles, aunts, rich, poor, working-class, middle-class, any gender expression, any ethnicity, any race, any sexuality (if I left something out email me).

Requirements for participation in the collective:

  • A dedication to the work involved in producing this statement is mandatory.
  • Must self-identify as a feminist and have knowledge of or willingness to learn about theories of feminism, parenting and intersectionality.
  • Parent of any type as discussed above.
  • Willing to contribute to a scholarly well researched collective statement about feminist parenting.
  • Willingness to meet either via teleconference or in person at regular intervals to facilitate the creation of the statement. (Viability of and necessity for an in-person meeting will be discussed at a much later date)
  • Ability to meet deadlines,  communicate effectively, keep everyone updated through regular reporting and be accountable for work taken on.
  • A dedication to and passion for feminist parenting activism.
  • Formal training and education in research is not required but is always helpful particularly for publication purposes. For the purposes of broadening the perspective of the collective not all members need to have a formal degree.

Issue the collective could (should?) address:

  • Parenting beliefs, theories & ideologies
  • Practical parenting methods & current practices
  • Diversity, teaching children tolerance vs. acceptance
  • Social awareness of children
  • Education
  • Gender roles
  • Division of household labor (The Second Shift)
  • Breastfeeding
  • Childbirth Choices & Education
  • Mothering vs Fathering vs Parenting
  • Childcare
  • Healthcare
  • Employment (SAHM, WAHM, Working Mothers, Stay-at-home Dads, etc.)
  • Economics
  • Welfare
  • Legislature, Laws affecting parenting
  • Diversity/Intolerance (Societal)
  • Fertility/Infertility (including choices for controlling fertility)
  • Legal definition of parenting, Societal definition of parenting
  • Social Policy
  • Family Values
  • Problems of civil marriage (hierarchy, creation of the “right type” of family)
  • “Opting-in” vs. “Opting-out”
  • Feminist definition of parenting
  • community vs. independence
  • family & community
  • Men as parents (Men are parents too!)
  • Men and mothering (Men are mom’s too!)
  • Media & Parenting
  • What is needed to create equality in parenting?
  • What does feminist parenting look like?
  • What are the obstacles to parenting equality & feminist childrearing?

This is a huge list! It doesn’t mean that they will all have to be addressed and some may inadvertently affect others. We may find that in solving some, other’s no longer need to be addressed. My point is nothing is concrete. This is just the inkling of an idea I’ve had since I found out I was pregnant.

If you are interested in participating please email me at mominthemargins (at) gmail (dot) com. You can also check out my contacts page for links to my Twitter & Facebook pages.

  1. Allison
    December 17, 2010 at 5:13 pm

    This is a great idea! I just stumbled across this. I’m currently 5 months pregnant, living in Toronto (Canada) and very much excited (and a bit scared) about radical/feminist parenting. In some ways, it seems like it should be easy – I will parent according to my values (and my wife’s values, obviously). However, in practice I can see this being challenging; for one, I struggle already with nostalgia, for my own childhood, even if the traditions I have fond memories of don’t really jive with my adult values.

    Anyway, I’m just wondering if this got started or not?

  2. rebecca
    February 2, 2011 at 11:46 pm

    Hi there! I came across your blog because of my google alert on feminist mothering. I coordinate a Toronto-based feminist mothering discussion group. YOu can find us online at http://www.facebook.com/pages/Mother-Outlaws-Toronto/143460575706047. We are guided by The Motherhood Initiative for Research and Community Involvement (http://www.motherhoodinitiative.org).

    If there’s anyway you could pass this info on to the commenter above (Allison), I’d really appreciate it. And I too would love to hear of your progress with the collective.

  1. June 16, 2010 at 12:37 am

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